LEARNING THE HARD WAY...
​9.18.20

​Now I understand why people older than me would often say, “I guess they will have to learn the hard way.” That phrase used to really bother me. I would fervently encourage my friends and loved ones to follow the “right” way in dealing with a situation, i.e., to learn from my mistakes. Not make their own.

But it doesn’t matter how passionate my attempts, people typically did (and still do) what they want.

DO PEOPLE LIKE THE GIFTS YOU GIVE?
9.11.20

I come from a tribe of people who love crispy bacon. (I think we just love breakfast food in general, like Ron Swanson on Parks and Recreation.) Anyway, My Mom would always serve her Dad the crunchy slices at breakfast when she was little, as a sort of way to show him love…until years later when he mentioned to her how much he disliked bacon crispy!

Oh the horror! My Mom laughed about it when she told me this. She thought about how she could have been eating those bacon pieces herself and enjoying them all those years.

Lesson learned: Ask people what they like.
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I know I don’t always do this. ​


​Welcome To My Blog!

I'm so glad you stopped by! There are many bloggers, so what can my few little pages on the web offer to you? For me, the answer has always been the same: I want more positive words "out there" about aging and adulting. I saw mainstream responses to getting older and found them often unappealing. I didn’t want many of those options, so I supported the one I do: an encouraging and enthusiastic response to the changes the years bring. I'm heading toward 40, and I think a positive outlook is important because if I die tomorrow, or I die when I’m 999, I’ve not lived a life where I’ve cringed at each new year.

Is my way the only way? Of course not. Our response to adulting is immensely personal. But it’s not limited, and that’s the secret. You don’t have to tackle the hardships of adulting the way others have. I hope you will join me in forging our own path and shaping our own reality: focusing on the positive, the special, and the parts of aging that make us smile and are in store for those who live (to be cliché) to see another day.